Hooker on a Bus

Copyrights: The Puppeteer

Sunday evening 8pm, I got on a bus at Bamba and promptly planted myself on the only seat available. More people filed in after me and when it was considerably packed with people standing in the aisle, the bus groaned awake and rumbled up the road.

Less than five minutes later, typical of Sri Lankan public transport, the bus hauled in at another halt to allow more people to squeeze in. A few people scrambled in and weaved through sea of bodies. Just as the new commuters had become one with the mass inside the bus, packed like a can of SPAM, starting from the entrance the sea of people parted neatly to make a clear path for the last incomer. Half expecting to see Moses emerge, I was a bit disappointed when instead a petite woman strolled in with an air of nonchalance about her. At first glance my mind alerted “Oooooh a prostitute.”

I’ve never actually seen a sex worker before but from what I’ve been told and what I’ve read in books, she had all the signs of a prostitute. She was wearing a short, worn out, blue cotton dress printed with a huge floral pattern, the straps of her bra were hanging off her shoulders, and around her waist she had a tattered white belt that didn’t really serve any purpose considering she was wearing a dress.

She had also accessorised with lots of cheap jewellery- a thick bracelet of pink beads and dangling earrings of red and green beads. But what was strange was the bottom bits of plastic bottle caps that she had attached to her hair-band that held her mangled, frizzy brunette hair in a bundle. Although the most telling sign might have been the bright magenta lipstick that was smeared on her lips, either that or the fact that people were leaning way from her in such a way you’d think she were a leper.

What got me thinking twice about her being a prostitute was that she looked extremely old. Her dark skin was dry and wrinkled. Even her cheeks had heavy furrows of wrinkles that sagged down to her chin. I’d say she was in her 50’s, if I had to guess. But then again, maybe she’s much younger because being a sex worker must zap the life out of you.

She stationed herself beside the seat in front of me just as the bus grunted and began to move. The mother and daughter seated there were squirming in their seat and crouching away from her as if she had an invisible force field around her that repelled them.

I couldn’t help feeling bad that people were behaving the way they were. It’s just not right. So what if she is a sex worker? Who are we to judge her? She’s obviously got it tough as it is, she doesn’t need people reacting merely to her presence as if she were something foul that the cat had dragged in.

Just imagine being in her shoes. Imagine making a living of allowing men have their way with you and then whenever you step out into the street people scurry away from you or/and stare at you from a safe distance. Even the bus conductor used a rough tone with her. Treated like a pariah, being a prostitute must be the worst and most lonely way to earn a living.

As much as I wanted to observe her a bit more (I found the strange old woman to be quite fascinating), I didn’t want to add to the general discomfort she must have been feeling while all eyes were on her, I averted my sight onto the passing buildings across the road. Although I think she seemed rather accustomed to how the people around her were reacting. Like I said earlier, she had an air of nonchalance about her. She didn’t really care. She seemed forcedly oblivious to how people were reacting towards her. To me it looked as if she’d programmed herself to tune out everything around her. In fact she didn’t show any emotion whatsoever, it was like she was on autopilot.

But then about 10 minutes later, everyone had gotten over the initial shock of being in the bus with a sex worker and returned to spacing out, with the glazed zombie look in their eyes as they waited to reach home. All except for the pair crouched in the seat beside her. At this point the daughter, who was seated by the shutter had her arm around her mother, pulling her away from the little woman who was so tired, her head was bobbing as she was falling asleep while on her feet.

At the next bus halt the person beside me vacated his spot and shimmied his way off the bus. I shifted to the side and the little old woman slid into the space beside me and rested her head on the window. She smelt musty. I can’t quite describe the smell. But the best I can say is that it was a sort of stuffy, old, musty smell that hung around her.

I got a few curious looks, people seemed surprised that I didn’t mind her sitting next to me. But then I guess they were all just too tired and soon got bored of the whole thing. Except of course for the mother and daughter seated in front of me. They would repeatedly turn around like wind-up toys to gape at her and look at me with wide-eyed disbelief like I had done something scandalous.

I guess the whole experience for me was a wee bit of an eye-opener to the harsh reality of the world.

Besides that I’ve always been a bit disappointed that I’ve never had any eventful bus rides. So this easily makes it as the most interesting bus katha I have to share- the strange old hooker.

23 Responses to “Hooker on a Bus”

  1. wow! :| reading this made me really sad… it’s sick how society judges people like that, innit? :(

    good post…

  2. I think the word that sums it up is Stigma and I don’t think there’s a retirement age per say…

  3. “because being a prostitute must zap the life out of you.”
    I think most of them do drugs…that’s prolly why. It’s good of you not to be one of the status quo. :)

  4. =(

    Poor lady. They got it tough don’t they?

  5. Sighh.. :\

    Labelling jars is better than labelling people. Loved the post. Was naice.

  6. “But the best I can say is that it was a sort of stuffy, old, musty smell that hung around her.”
    Gee wonder what that smell is ??!!!!!!! Sheeeesh

    If the other peeps are so repulsed, I actually feel sorry for her clients as well.. Must be a pretty desperate bunch :(

  7. Well I really feel sorry about her. Another victim of this damn society. Real hookers are women who have lots of money and men. We should define a hooker like this.

  8. Good Post. Thought provoking indeed.

  9. This is quite a sad story. I hate people like the mother and daughter that you’ve mentioned. The world would be a better place if there was a lil’ less judgement!

  10. and what was Jerry doing all this time then

  11. Our society does not take time to think…..sad how people like this are treated…but that’s how it is…..

    good post.:)

  12. Fun bus story. The most exciting one I have is the one where I hit four or five people in the face with my bag while doing the whole manouvering through the crowd thing. :/

  13. The irony is that the very same guys who diss her in a bus halt, will be running to her on pay day.

    No bus katha? You mean none of the guys have tried to `jack you` or worse pulled out their willy?

  14. Nice of you not to shy away..

  15. @ Chavie and LD- Thanks and yeah… Should at the very least not reacted so openly. It must be terrible having people react like that do you

    @ AFoxHound- From what I saw, I guess not…

    @ Dee- Possibly… Possibly… Still I wouldn’t place her anywhere below 45 years

    @ Black Rose- Yeah… seems that way

    @ PSIM, Cadence- Thanks

    @ Girigoris- I honestly haven’t got a clue, man. Well if they were repulsed by her I don’t suppose they would hire her. In which case she wouldn’t sill be a prostitute.

    @ Dan- Yeah… Strange isn’t it… Fact is, most of them don’t really want to be prostitutes, they’re forced into it.

    @ Scrumpilicious- Yeah… But I guess it’s just human nature as well…

    @ The Whack- He was being a good little boy and looking away the whole time. Didn’t shift when she stood by him either.

    @ Maks- :P

    @ Chaarmax- Yeah, which makes it all the more terrible. As for the bus stories… nopes, I haven’t ever had any of that. I guess they’re just intimidated by me :P

    @ Janusis- The other people in the bus weren’t too bad since they got over it a bit later. It was the mother and daughter that got me ticked off

  16. You lot !!! which country do you live in ?? There are enough jobs in SL without women turning into hookers. Just take a walk down Rathmalana area or any place where they do production. Every facility has a notice saying vacancies. These factories take people that are wiling to work and train them and pay them good money.

    May be the mother and the daughter earned money that hard way.

    I think people have a right to be judgmental. If a known murderer was in the bus would people not stare. If a known drug dealer was in the bus ?

    It is not the fault of the society that these careers still exist.

    It is the choice of the individual, never forget that !!

  17. @ Saliya- Most women, if any at all, don’t willing become prostitutes. They are forced into it either at a young age sometimes by their own parents or relatives, or if they’re older by their husbands.
    They don’t have a choice.

    IF they do manage to break away from the people who’re forcing them into it, they still find it difficult to find other means of earning because of the social stigma or that they’ve been doing this at such a young age they don’t really know what else they can do.

    It’s commendable if there are broadminded people who are willing to hire women who used to be prostitutes to work in their factories. But some prostitutes are mentally scarred and most are unsure of themselves that they wouldn’t seek out these opportunities.

    If they’re lucky social services will help them. But here in Sri Lanka, the chances of that aren’t too likely. So they continue to be prostitutes.

    I don’t really think women decide to become prostitutes themselves. And I highly doubt they enjoy being prostitutes.

    We don’t know their story. We don’t know how or why the old woman on the bus got to be a prostitute. So we have no right to judge her.

  18. i could be wrong, but isn’t this post and the comments to it the blog version of what the mother and daughter did?

    personally, i think what these people need is not pity and sympathy but rights, just like all other workers. if she wants to use her body to make money, then so who are we to judge if that’s right or wrong? if they had the legal framework to assert their rights, then we could avoid a lot of exploitation and also minimise the spread of HIV.

    rushed comment, but thought i’d share my two cents for whatever it’s worth.

  19. Pol Sambol Says:

    “We don’t know their story. We don’t know how or why the old woman on the bus got to be a prostitute. So we have no right to judge her.” this is very true and well put. -Please add – I dont know if she really is a prostitute since i judged her purely on the way she looked.

    Many women enter sex work by choice. (please note the use of the work sex work as opposed to prostitute – which is derogatory and stigmatizing – the same goes for hookers) there are other options and others jobs (btw no one ever tells their employer i used to sell sex!) but they dont pay as well so deciding not to do them is also a choice. Yes believe it or not. many dont do this as their one and only job, many engage in sex work, not for money but even for food and favours from more powerful people in society, some do it one off, some seasonally only during vesak! Its the oldest profession in the world and supply will exist so long as there is demand. No point feeling sorry for them. (It is the men who visit them you need to feel sorry for – they have to pay for sex!) Instead stop stigmatizing them and empower them instead – empower them to make choices so if they decide to leave the profession they are not left on the streets.

    But by not shying away from her and taking it cooly in your stride you have shown the way and at least started – in some small way – to be more accepting of differences. good going….

  20. @ Pissu Perera- Yeah, that would solve the HIV problem. But I was writing about the way people reacted. I was surprised by that because I’ve never really seen people act that way towards someone before.

    @ Pol Sambol- Yes, ’sex worker’ would have been a better term. It didn’t occur to me when writing the post, I’ll change that.

    Yes, I guess since I never asked her if she were a sex worker, I can’t really say. But like I’ve said before the post is more about how people reacted towards her, if she were a sex worker or not. There was obviously some stigma about her that people reacted to her in that particular way.

    I should do some research on whether most women enter the sex trade by choice. But I do know that not all women make that choice and a good number is forced into it. Either way, forced into it or not, we really shouldn’t judge them, which is the crux of this post.

  21. Bus kathaa hari rahai…
    basically what it says is that, dura gaman, ardha sukopabhogi, seat 29 bus rathayaka pasupasa aasanaye gaman ganna wita jiwithaye thibena mihiriyawath, idiripasa aasanaye gaman ganna wita jiwithaye athi awadaanamath athvindiya hakiya….

    If i had translated this, the real “raha” behind would not show off…

  22. @ MyKarapincha- Yeah, true enough. But I don’t suppose it’s possible to try to change human nature

  23. I saw her again! This time it was on the pavement along Victoria park- opposite the Municipal Council. Behind a white van but right there on the pavement, she was pulling a little blue dress with white polka dots over herself! She set that exact white belt over the dress, picked up the very same maroon duffel bag that she had with her the other day on the bus and strolled off in the direction of the public library…

    I’m more inclined to believe she is a sex-worker now… Maybe if I can summon up the courage I’ll ask her about it if I see her again…

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